Tag: manners

Our Salaf – Abdullaah Ibn Umar [radiyallaahu-anhumaa] and His Jewish Neighbour

A Sheep was slaughtered for Abdullaah Ibn Umar [radiyallaahu-anhumaa], so he said to his slave: Have you given to our Jewish neighbour? Have you given to our Jewish neighbours? I heard the Messenger of Allaah [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] saying: Jibreel did not cease advising me [about the rights of] a neighbour until I thought that he [a neighbour] would inherit from me.


 

One Should Not Poke His [or Her] Nose In People’s Business!

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

It is forbidden for a person to just come and sit with a person who is talking to another person because it may be that they are engaged in a private conversation. The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said, “Whoever listens to the talk of some people who do not like him (to listen) or they run away from him, then molten lead will be poured into his ears on the Day of Resurrection. [Sahih Al-Bukhaari Number 7042]. This is a severe threat, so one should not listen to the speech of the people if they do not want anyone to know what they are talking about. [Ref 1]

It may be that two or more people gather to speak about a particular affair that concerns them, and they do not want anyone else to know about it; but then a person or more than one person becomes an obstacle by listening to their speech and (wanting) to know what they are talking about, whilst they are not pleased with that. This is an act of transgression and foolishness – that a person involves himself into something that does not concern him. And from the perfection of a person’s Islaam is to leave that which does not concern him. However, there is an exception to this prohibition such as when a person listens into the speech of those who are focused or (involved) in seeking to breach the state of safety and security of the Muslims. [Ref 2]


[Re 1]:Abridged & paraphrased…source: It’haaf At-Tullaab Bi-Sharhi Mandhoomah Al-Aadaab’ page 149′ by Shaikh Fawzaan  (may Allaah preserve him). See Arabic text here:

Ref 2: Abridged and paraphrased…source: Awnul Ahadis Samad Sharh Al-Adabil Mufrad’ Vol 3 page 281′ by Shaikh Zayd Bin Haadi al-Madkhali (rahimahullaah). See Arabic text here:

How to Recant One’s Mistake (s)- By Shaikh Muhammad Bin Haadi [may Allaah preserve him]

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

He [i.e. the person] recants from the mistake by way of speech just as he did when he uttered the mistake. He says: ”I committed a mistake.” If the mistake is made in the presence of a gathering of people, he informs them in the same gathering that he made a mistake. If the mistake was made in writing, he writes and corrects the mistakes just as he did when he committed the mistake. If the mistake was transmitted through recorded speech in the form of audio, he corrects the mistake in a like manner. This will not harm the person who committed the mistake.

By Allaah this will make the people have more trust in you because you have not feared them; rather you fear Allaah (The Mighty and Majestic). That is because if you leave the people to carry your mistakes, they will be misguided due to you and you will carry your sins. We ask Allaah for pardon and forgiveness.

You know how, when and where you made the mistake; therefore rectify it in a like manner. If the mistake was committed in a gathering similar to this one, then come tomorrow and say: ”I made a mistake in such and such;” If it was in a lesson, you say: ”I made a mistake in such and such.” If the mistake was recorded by way audio, then rectify it in a like manner. If the mistake was publicized, then rectify it in a like manner.

This will absolve you from blame and the people will recognize your truthfulness. In-Shaa-Allaah this will raise your status in the presence of Allaah, and then Allaah will raise your status in the sight of the people. We ask Allaah to grant us this.


Abridged and Paraphrased from a statement of Shaikh Muhammad Bin Haadi (may Allaah preserve him) –see transcript and audio in this link: http://www.sahab.net/forums/index.php?showtopic=142219

One of You Looks at the Mote in His Brother’s Eye, While Forgetting the Stump in His Own Eye!

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

Abu Hurairah [radiyallaahu-anhu] said, ”One of you looks at the mote in his brother’s eye while forgetting the stump in his own eye.” [Al-Adabul Mufrad’ Hadeeth Number 592]

Few Reminders from Shaikh Zaid [rahimahullaah]

This narration shows that it is obligated on (a person) to pre-occupy himself (or herself) with his (or her) own faults (or shortcomings) before looking at that of others. It is a severe heedlessness that a Muslim becomes heedless of his faults and delays rectification of himself (or herself), yet he (or she) criticises others and even though his (or her) faults are more and greater than that of others. Therefore what is obligated on a Muslim and a Muslimah is to strive to prevent oneself from violating Allaah’s commands and prohibitions. On the other hand, one should strive to call others to the (path of) Allaah, so that they are distanced from sins, for sins are a heavy burden on a person in this life and the next; and make them incline towards obedience to Allaah, which will make their scales of good deeds heavy, earns a person paradise and the pleasure of Allaah, and saves him (or her) from the Anger of Allaah and His painful punishment.

However, it must be borne in mind that warning against ahlul bidah – those who call to their bidah by way of speech and books-is not tantamount to seeking after the faults (or shortcomings) of others, for indeed to warn against ahlul bidah is an established Sunnah- obligated by the Qur’an and the Sunnah. That is because to abandon the mention of a Mubtadi in order to warn against him is tantamount to abandonment of [Amr Bil Ma’roof Wan-Nahy Anil Munkar – Enjoining Good and Forbidding Evil]. Therefore, we must make a distinction in order to know what is commanded and what is prohibited, and the difference between warning against [innovators, innovations] and the (blameworthy act) of seeking after the faults of others. [Ref 1]


[Ref 1: Awnul Ahadis Samad Sharh Al-Adab Al-Mufrad’ Vol 2 page 205′ by Shaikh Zayd Bin Haadi (rahimahullaah). Abridged & paraphrased].

Don’t Merely Judge The Book By Its Cover- [This One Is Snubbed; He Is of Low Status and Not Missed When Absent; But Look at His Status In The Sight of Allaah!

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

The Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said:

رُبَّ أَشْعَثَ مَدْفُوعٍ بِالأَبْوَابِ لَوْ أَقْسَمَ عَلَى اللَّهِ لأَبَرَّهُ

‘’Many a person with dishevelled hair and covered with dust is turned away from the doors (whereas) were he to swear by Allaah (about something), Allaah will fulfil it’’.

[Sahih Muslim Number 2622]

 

A Short Reminder From This Hadeeth By Shaikh Saaleh Al-Fawzaan (may Allaah preserve him):

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This person is a close friend among the close friends of Allaah, and was he to swear by Allaah (about something); Allaah will make it happen due to his high status in the sight of Allaah, even though he is driven away from the doors. If he intercedes (for someone), his intercession will not be accepted; if he is absent, he is not missed, but he is a great one in the sight of Allaah. [Ref 1]

A Short Reminder From This Hadeeth By Imaam An-Nawawi (rahimahullaah):

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This type of person is one whom the people drive away from their doors in humiliation- he has no status in the sight of the people; but he is someone that if he were to swear by Allaah about something, Allaah will make it happen as an honour for him- by answering his request and safeguarding him from sin in relation to his oath. This is due to his great station in the sight of Allaah (The Exalted), even though he is someone despised in the sight of the people. It is said that the meaning of [الْقَسَمِ in this hadeeth is (الدُّعَاءُ – supplication) and (إِبْرَارُهُ   ) means (إِجَابَتُهُ   -the response to the supplication)] [Ref 2]

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We ask Allaah to include us amongst those who are humble-both inwardly and outwardly-; and include us amongst those who never utilise their status amongst the people to oppress, belittle and mock others. We ask Allaah to include us amongst those who are kind and compassionate towards the likes of the people mentioned in the hadeeth, for indeed whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy. We ask Allaah to grant us truthfulness, firmness upon the authentic Sunnah and distance us from bidah; we ask Allaah to grant us sincerity, humility, good manners, a good end in this worldly life, happiness in our graves and abundant mercy in the afterlife Aameen.


[Ref 1: It’haaf At-Tullaab Bi-Sharhi Mandhoomah al-Aadaab’ page 102. Abridged & paraphrased]

[Ref 2:Abridged & paraphrased. Source: Sharh Saheeh Muslim’ Vol 15-16’ page 144’ publisher: Daar Kutub Al-Ilmiyyah’ 1st ed. (1421AH- Year 2000)]

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The best of the believers are those…

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The Messenger ( sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam ) said: ”

The best of the believers are those with the best manners. The most discerning of them is the one who remembers death the most and makes the best preparation for it. Those are the discerning ones”.

[Declared Hasan’ by Imaam Albaani (rahimahullaah) in As-Saheehah 1384 & also in Irwaa Al-Ghaleel 682]