Tag: morals and manners

Socialising With The People:[Neither Be Excessive Nor Negligent; Neither Be a Loner Nor a Tag-along, Loiterer etc]

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

Ibn Abbaas [radiyallaahu-anhumaa] said: Well-being and safety is of ten parts; nine parts are found in silence [i.e. speak good or remain silent] and the tenth part is found in isolating oneself from the people.

[Sifatus Safwah 4/257]

Maalik Bin Deenaar [rahimahullaah] said: The Abraar used to advise one another with three affairs: Restraint of the tongue, seeking the forgiveness of Allaah a lot and isolating oneself from the people.

[Hilyatul Awliyaa 2/277]

NB: Isolating oneself from the people: Al-Khattaabee [rahimahullaah] stated in Al-Uzlah pages 12-13 that the intent behind this does not mean that a person abandons the obligatory gatherings [i.e. the Salawaat, the Jumu’ah prayers and other gatherings where one’s presence is required]. It neither means that one neglects the rights of the people and the good customary practices established amongst them nor does it mean that one refrains from replying to their greetings of Salaam; rather this isolation necessitates abandoning that excess and increased intermingling, for which there is no need.

The Four Types of Earning and Spending – By Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [Rahimahullaah]  

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [rahimahullaah] said: The Daraahim [i.e. monies] are four types:

[1] The dirham [i.e. money] that was earned in obedience to Allaah and spent to fulfil Allaah’s Rights. This is of the best Daraahim.

[2]The dirham that was earned in disobedience to Allaah and spent in disobedience to Allaah. This one is the most evil of the Daraahim.

[3] The dirham that was earned by way of harming a Muslim and spent to harm a Muslim. This one is the same as [dirham number 2].

[4] The dirham that was earned by way of permissible means and spent on permissible desires. This one is neither for nor against [you].

This is the origin of the Daraahim.

[Source: Al-Fawaa-id: page: 247]


A Mocker Is an Ignorant Person Who Is Deficient In Intellect!

Allaah (The Most High) said:

وَإِذْ قَالَ مُوسَىٰ لِقَوْمِهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُكُمْ أَن تَذْبَحُوا بَقَرَةً ۖ قَالُوا أَتَتَّخِذُنَا هُزُوًا ۖ قَالَ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ أَنْ أَكُونَ مِنَ الْجَاهِلِينَ

And (remember) when Musa (Moses) said to his people: “Verily, Allah commands you that you slaughter a cow.” They said, “Do you make fun of us?” He said, “I take Allah’s Refuge from being among Al-Jahilun (the ignorants or the foolish).” [2:67]

That is because the Jaahil (ignorant one) is that one who speaks with a speech that contains no benefit and he is that one who mocks at the people. As for the sensible person, he sees that among the greatest blameworthy traits -which is rebuked by (sound) religion and intellect- is to mock at someone who is a human being like himself. And if he has been favoured over that other person, then this favour necessitates that he thanks Allaah and shows mercy to Allaah’s servants.  Therefore, when Musa (alayhis-salaam) said this to them [i.e. I take Allaah’s Refuge from being among the ignorant], they knew that it (i.e. what he commanded them) was truth, so they said:

[ادْعُ لَنَا رَبَّكَ يُبَيِّن لَّنَا مَا هِيَ -call upon your Lord for us that He may make plain to us what it is!(2:68)]


[Abridged & slightly paraphrased. Source: Tayseer al-Kareem ar-Rahmaan Fee Tafseer Kalaam al-Mannaan’ by Imaam As-Sadi (rahimahullaah). Publisher: Daar Ibn Hazm. 1st Edition 1424AH (Year 2003)]


He who cheats (or deceives) does not belong to me!

Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu-anhu) narrated that the Messenger of Allaah (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) passed by a pile of food and put his hand into it, and his fingers touched something wet. He said, ”What is this, O seller of the food?” The man said, ”It was (made wet) by the rain, O Messenger of Allaah.” He said, ”Why did you not put (the wet part) on top of the pile so that the people could see it? He who deceives does not belong to me.”


[Reported by Muslim: 102]