Allaah (Subhaanah) said:

قَوْلٌ مَّعْرُوفٌ وَمَغْفِرَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن صَدَقَةٍ يَتْبَعُهَا أَذًى ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَنِيٌّ حَلِيمٌ

”Kind words and forgiving of faults are better than charity followed by injury.  And Allaah is Rich (Free of all needs) and He is Most-Forbearing” [2:263]